Because your role has become the role of a compensator and not a guide, you start compensating for more and more things and sometimes children grow past the need for compensation.
They doubt their own inside voice and they doubt their own competence. They don’t doubt their competence with their other children, but autism is a wedge, it’s like a wedge with glue, and it drives families apart.
What I liked about the conversation was that these six things show a self-reflection, they show the hard work he’s done, they actually kind of document the guiding relationship he had with his parents.
The whole point of RDI is that we want our children to become independent in the way that they’re going to become independent is by learning to think and to use their brains in a way that they need to be used.
In RDI we believe there is a parallel process between the consultant and the parent, and the parent and the child… We’re giving them the tools so they can begin to think of their own objectives, they can come up with them.
Sometimes when an autism diagnosis comes in, there’s a veil that falls over our dreams. Will there be hope again?